SHE SAYS IT BETTER
As you are well aware, I basically read only fiction but
claim I learn a lot of basic psychology from those books
Recently I wrote about favoring one child over another in
your family depending on the circumstances. In reading the book “Lone Wolf” by Jodi
Picoult, I was struck by how well one of the main characters spoke about her
own feelings which parallels mine. Probably the same feelings that other parents
feel about their own children, so I’m going to quote you a paragraph.
It’s not politically correct to say that you love one
child more than you love your others. I love all my kids, period, and they’re
all my favorites in different ways. But ask any parent who’s been through some
kind of crisis surrounding a child---a health scare, an academic snarl, an
emotional problem---and we will tell you the truth. When something upends the
equilibrium---when one child needs you more than the others---that imbalance becomes
a black hole. You may never admit it out loud, but the one you love most is the
one who needs you more desperately than his siblings. What we really hope is
that each child gets a turn. That we have deep enough reserves to be there for
each of them, at different times.
Amen
Very interesting and poignant!
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